THE TRAUMA OF BETRAYAL Posted on March 23, 2021, updated on March 4, 2024 by Gateway Counseling The prevalence rate for infidelity over one’s lifetime ranges from 25 – 40% for men and 20-25% for woman. If you take an average U.S. population of 350,000,000 and multiply it by 25%, you come up with 87,500,000 people who have engaged in, or been the victim of, a relational betrayal. When you are experiencing… Read More
HOW NOT TO GET RETRAUMATIZED BY TRAUMA THERAPY Posted on March 9, 2021, updated on March 4, 2024 by Gateway Counseling For many individuals, just the word trauma can be highly activating. As a trauma specialist, I have gone into many centers over the years and found so much misinformation and retraumatizing that has occurred with clients. Without the adequate training and experience, many well-intentioned clinicians can retraumatize their clients in their efforts to help them… Read More
HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF THERAPY Posted on February 11, 2021, updated on March 4, 2024 by Gateway Counseling Psychotherapy should be more than just a conversation. A significant percentage of my clients who attended therapy previously complain that, despite the therapist being kind and attentive, they just didn’t feel they were benefitting. They often assert, “We were just talking a lot, but I didn’t FEEL any different.” For psychotherapy to make a real… Read More
WHY MOST PSYCHOTHERAPIES DON’T WORK Posted on January 19, 2021, updated on March 4, 2024 by Gateway Counseling Psychotherapy has been around in some form since the late 1800’s. Throughout this period, it has gone through numerous evolutions. Although Sigmund Freud was not the first to explore the complexities of the mind, most in the general public view Freud as the father of psychotherapy. Freud, and those who followed him in his psychoanalytic… Read More